Sunday, September 21, 2014
Marriage is a Choice.
Some people talk about 'liking' someone, about having a 'crush', about 'first love's, about 'puppy love', about love-hate relationships, about unrequited love and so on.
I'm still learning about relationships, about dating/courtship, about loving someone else etc. For me at least, most books I read are regarding marriage - the 'serious' things, because isn't it pointless talking about the small and frivolously shallow issues? Like getting to know someone else, 'having fun', asking small 'unimportant' questions like what your partner's favourite colour is, what they like doing, what their childhood dreams were etc?
Is the 'Getting-To-Know-You' phase really useless like how I think it is?
Should everyone just have an all-or-nothing attitude to relationships? And thus forget about actually finding out about whether the other person is someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, just assuming you will definitely be able to tolerate everything they throw at you?
I guess what I'm trying to get at is this: The dating or courtship phase is actually for both people to find out more about their partner, to see if they are really someone they WANT to spend the rest of their lives with. It's not just an obligation, or a duty, or an act done out of neutrality or indifference. Because marriage is a big thing. Marriage is a commitment. Marriage is life-long. Marriage is 'till death do us part'. Marriage is 'for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health'.
Marriage is unto God. Marriage is the service to God with your sexuality.
Marriage is a model of Christ's relationship with the church.
Marriage is love.
Marriage is not begrudging, not unwilling, not forced, not involuntary.
Marriage is not half-minded and not done out of fear of loneliness.
No one should be coerced into it, neither should it be done out of guilt.
Marriage is not done out of selfishness.
Marriage is a life-long commitment to the good of your spouse.
Marriage is a choice.
GOD is in control, 11:42 PM.
